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Relationships At Work: Do You Dare?


Have you ever had a relationship with a colleague, or (maybe) your boss?

Sometimes, you can meet the most incredible people in the workplace, right? You normally share (some) common ground, due to working in the same industry, so what happens if you take it further?

Do you keep your relationship strictly professional in the office, and romantic after hours?

Apparently some New Zealand employers (including Air NZ, Fonterra, Telecom, NZ Police, Defence Force) are taking the above quite seriously: ensuring you sign a contract promising “not to have sex with staff.” If you enter a relationship with a colleague, you need to disclose the status quo straight away, or face the (possibly legal) consequences.

Have they gone too far, do you think?

I have had two historical relationships in my (previous) workplace’s sometime ago, and actually married one of them!

So naturally I have an opinion.

Good luck corporates!

Awareness Of Self

“Human beings are an untidy lot. They’d lose their arms and legs if they weren’t joined on right.” – Elizabeth Beresford

‘Our addictive functioning requires of us that we tune out our bodies. In fact, often the purpose of our addictions is to put us out of touch with what we are feeling, what we are thinking, our awarenesses, and our intuition. Addictive working or rushing around leaves little time or energy to notice what our bodies are telling us about our feelings and our health.’

Excerpt from ‘Meditations For Women Who Do Too Much’ by Anne Wilson Schaef


Fact. Actual. Fidelity. To be honest with yourself in everything you do, is liberating. Not only about what you think of other people, things or events, but yourself. There is no certainty in your workplace, relationships, or even, how you react or deal with adversity. Life choices are paramount to personal development, whether it was the right or wrong decision, it was the ‘correct’ choice in that moment. Change is imminent when you age. Most people I speak to, love themselves more today, than they did twenty years ago. Truth is understanding your purpose in life, on a deeper level than material. Being a parent is a rewarding role, that confronts truth, on a regular basis, real time events that can sometimes make you address, your ‘inner’ self. Integrity breeds good relationships in love and work, truth also ignites opportunity, aplenty.

“Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon, and the truth.” – Buddha

Work life imbalance

Statistically both New Zealand and Australian citizens work longer days, much more than the basic 40 hour week, than back in 1840, when New Zealand was the first country to claim the right to work eight hours a day. Fact. With flexitime and working remotely, life has changed so much, with the convenience of smartphones, tablets and social media, now accessible 24 hours a day. You could argue that work is life? How many of your friends are non-work related? Do you turn your phone off at the weekend, or is that a luxury? Average weekly wage in NZ is $806, youth rate is $10.80 per hour. How do you survive? Obviously you work longer hours, more than the UK (12%), US (11%), Denmark (3%) and so on. Remember to enjoy what you do, or work towards what makes you happy.
Or relocate? Laugh, smile and enjoy the sunshine, no cost to you!