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Love: Does It Come At A Price?


“One of love’s greatest drawbacks is that, for a while at least, it is in danger of making us seriously happy.” – Alain de Botton

Doesn’t everyone want to feel something, in their lifetime? To love, hold, cherish, laugh and spoon – the one you adore?

‘Speaking in Tongues’ by Andrew Bovell challenges the ‘norms of society’ and the way we behave (either naturally or manufactured), the way we do.

When we grow tired of our lover or partner, some of us look for younger flesh. Others may withdraw from society, into a deep depression.


When we have it all – it never seems to be enough. So many voids, and the ‘love’ has run out. Probably because nothing satisfies, and we are scared of being hurt? Again?

When marriage takes the back seat, the adrenalin takes over, and meeting a stranger for ‘intimacies’ becomes a reality. Or does it? When it is right there for the taking, morality pollutes the mind.

‘Speaking In Tongues’ was adapted from the stage to the screen in 2001, the award-winning film, ‘Lantana’. I have seen it three times.

Great storytelling with elements of fear, hints of comedy, and the sense of raw undoings of betrayal – that leave us blinded, speechless, and wanting more.

“Marriage is a wonderful invention; bit then again so is a bicycle repair kit.” – Billy Connelly


If you conducted a survey, for what makes people happy, the majority would probably say ‘money’, makes a difference to their happiness. Really? Money can only satisfy material need, right? The more you earn, the more you spend. We live in a world of consumerism, always chasing the next item of technology, the latest must-have’s from the beauty pages, including all the foods and/or supplements that are packed with antioxidants, 99% fat free, no cholesterol, adequate protein or carbohydrates for a balanced diet, and don’t forget the gym. Aerobic exercise definitely releases the dopamine (neurotransmitter) required to make you feel great, according to the ‘happy’ movie. Sometimes, the more ‘simple’ your existence, the happier you are. I can only remember one holiday, (8 years ago) when I turned off my mobile device, did not wear a watch nor care about the time or my schedules, it was truely euphoric. Happiness is partly genetic, intentional and environmental. Listen to nature. Volunteer in the community. Try ‘laughing yoga’. Or just breathe, and look around.

“Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions.” – Dalai Lama